What do hot and lasting couples have in common with national spelling bee champions? What do hot and lasting couples have in common with national spelling bee champions? Both value the power of vocabulary words. Words open up intimacy, empathy and insight. The right words…

No wonder love is confusing! Partnerships are a dance of six brains. Brains have three parts. The Lizard, Mammal, and Adult. The Adult Brain is our prefrontal cortex. It has deep soulful feelings but not crazy mood swings. It doesn’t do well when anxious. When…

From Discovery to Affair Recovery Couples who fight too much often sign up for coaching in the aftermath of an affair. Betrayal usually damages but doesn’t destroy the love of either partner. Yet discovering an affair brings endless tidal waves of grief and rage. No relationship…

From Trauma to Trust (Relational Post Traumatic  Stress or RPTS)   Most of us think that trauma results from surviving the severe type of physical danger only experienced during a war, accident, or assault.  But surviving a relational trauma can be just as emotionally crushing as surviving  physical danger.…