For women who are done with dating but do want a life partner

What You Want in a Life Partner Will Be
In Front of You, Available, and Live Nearby*
No woo. No bull. No fairytale.

(*the rest is up to you)

This program is different. It’s designed to do one thing.

End your quest for love.

This is a six-week boot camp for women who are done dating but want a life partner.

I teach you the skills that couples get when they come to my therapy practice. Apply those skills to finding your partner, and you will.

The more you know about lasting connections, the more likely you’ll get what you want.

There’s a reason why you’ve burned out trying to meet your person.

It’s the belief that dating skills are the same skills used to find a partner. They look alike on the outside, but they’re different.

Learning the wisdom and skills for partnering, not dating expertise, is what makes this class unique and successful.

Looking to the dating industry to find a life partner is like going to the drycleaners to buy croissants.

This course gives you the keys to the bakery.

Dating skills are just a subset of what you need. I’ll show you what you’ve been missing.

Imagine building your dream home by yourself, with no training. Failure. But if you train and get a contractor’s license, you’ll have the expertise you need to build your life-long vision. Voila! This program provides the expertise you need to fulfill your dream of finding your partner.

All dating skills are a subset of four partner-finding skills:

ONE: With dating, flaws need to be hidden or fixed. With partnering, flaws are embraced.

The Single Most Destructive Myth Sold to Women Is That We Must Improve Ourselves To Find Our Person.

Nonsense. You’ll meet your life partner just. As. You. Are! Natural messy you IS the means to find the man who is uniquely right for you.

In the workplace, you get hired for the skills you DO have, not those you don’t have.

There are loads of men who are looking for what you already offer. What you lack is unimportant to them. You landed that fancy I.T. job because of your I.T. skills. Your tech boss does not care that you lack a medical degree.

Unapologetically relaxing into being yourself, including your flaws, is the most effective way to meet your partner.

This program shows you the art of accepting your flaws as a means for meeting your man.

Women complain that finding a life partner is like pulling a needle out of a haystack. I say:

You already possess a magnet to pull the needle out of the haystack. I’ll show you how to use it.

Authenticity is your love potion. You will resonate with the right man and repel the wrong ones.

Scarred from childhood from so many betrayal wounds? Plenty of men have been hurt and want someone who knows how to be vulnerable.
Too old? You’d be shocked to learn how many men desire a mature woman.
Too many pounds? No way. Many men hope to find a woman who is at ease with her shape.
Still got kids at home? Dads want women who are parents too.

You get the idea. You’ll use your so-called flaws to instantly filter out the 99.99% of those who might be turned off by what others crave. That’s why our so-called imperfections are a secret dating superpower.

The program gives you:
3 tools to reverse your old mindset
2 methods to make your flaws an asset
5 shortcuts to meeting your Person

Your imperfections are your secret dating superpower.

Embracing your flaws frees you up to discover your full self-worth. Your true value comes from the inside, has always been there, and is unconditional. Most women have been socialized to value others at the expense of dismissing how desirable and lovable they really are.

Your partner-finding skill comes from being centered in your own worth. A strong sense of your own value automatically creates healthy boundaries that connect you to the right man. Boundaries matter.

The course teaches you how to rediscover and live from your pure gold worth.

You’ll unleash your natural instinct for boundaries. Relating to men through your pure gold value gives you the balance between being too picky or way too giving with men.
You’ll no longer be drawn to men who don’t appreciate you. No more heartache!
Others can see your full worth. When you inhabit your real worth you become a beacon for kindred spirits.

The program gives you:

A three-phase exercise that transforms your feeling of flaws into self-worth.

A relaxing guided experience of your self-worth as an emotional immune system that keeps non-partners away.

THREE: The positive traits that we show off when dating are like the icing on the cake. Partners get the whole dessert.

It’s naive to think that what attracts you to dates is what you want in a life partner. Dating traits are a subset of what you want in a partner.

The program gives you: A 200+ item checklist for what you want in a life partner.

You’ll learn to evaluate plenty of good and bad points in dates that you’d usually ignore. You gain the mega clarity to spot The One.

FOUR: Dates look for what they can get from one another. Partners focus on what they offer each other.

SHOCKER: Knowing what you offer is far more important for 2 reasons.

Claiming the authority of what you bring is empowering, alluring, and protects you from squandering your gifts. Plus what you bring to a partner is so much more than what you offer a date. A partner mindset is growthful and calls forth more gifts than you ever knew that you had.

This class teaches you to be big and bold about your lifelong gifts. Then two things happen. You’ll stand out so your partner can see you. You’ll connect with those who also know the high value of what they bring to a relationship. This saves you from wasting time with men who aren’t for you.

The program gives you:

A 200+ checklist to discover your gifts.

A relaxed, experiential deep dive into the soul of your unique energies.

Book a free discovery call now! Text me at 510-913-4683

Meeting your life partner is possible.

It’s possible you think you’ve already explored every option, and believe that finding a partner is now up to fate.

That’s what I used to think.

Then I figured out what stops people from finding their Person and developed an effective system so they could. The results were swift, consistent, and happy.

Meeting one’s life partner was no longer a baffling, hit-or-miss experience.

The women I work with gain the mindset to rapidly find their partner and have a new way of responding once they do.

For years I only offered this to my private clients.

Now I’ve turned this method into a class to get the training out to as many as possible. I believe that all women deserve lasting love.

Book a free discovery call now! I’d love to hear from you. Text me at 510-913-4683

I love to celebrate my students’ success, but it’s important that you understand that everyone is unique and may have different outcomes. Testimonials are not a promise of results. Please use your best judgment in determining whether my class is right for you.

Women have said things such as…

Valerie kept her promise: she showed me how to see when the man I wanted was in front of me. She taught me how to find the confidence to walk right up to him and say hello. Today, we have two preschoolers and are getting married.

~Jacqueline

I’ve worked with dating coaches, and Val’s approach is totally different. She doesn’t teach you how to be a better date or how to date more men. Instead you learn how to find what you’ve been looking for. I did! We’ve been in love for seven years now. If you want a partner, please take this course.    

~Nicky

A friend gifted Valerie’s package for my 60th birthday. I was mortified, but went anyway. A few months later, I found my soulmate. Valerie definitely influenced my decisions and choices about romance. But I’ll always wonder about the timing of her program with that chance meeting that led to love.

~Maggie

I was wandering around in the dating scene and miserable. Valerie’s program changed my life. She got me out of my head and I learned to see myself as my partner will see me. She gave me the tools to spot that one special person. He and I crossed paths a few weeks after I finished the class, and we’ve been together for three years!

~Maria

I wish I could have taken Valerie’s program ten years ago. It made me more self-accepting, and I’m attracting men who are right for me, and am confident that I’ll eventually share my life with one of them.

~Katrina

I was skeptical. I believed my emotional scars meant I would always be reactive. I had given up on getting married again. I saw Valerie for two months. I learned how to work with, instead of against my bitchiness. A few months later, I met the kindest man I’ve ever known. Val’s program taught me to calm down enough to talk with him, and be willing to accept that someone could accept me despite my moods. It’s been work, but we’ve been happily married for many years.

~Crystal

Valerie reversed my usual approach to dating. It’s a long story, but dating became more selective. After a while, I met the man who became my husband. I also believe our marriage is stronger because of what I learned from Valerie.

~Terri

I would not have been able to pick my future husband out of the apps if it weren’t for Valerie. Using all of her tasks and tools, I got exactly what I wanted and am happy.

~Tania

Val is so low-key that it’s easy to work with her. She respected how trapped and deeply lonely I felt. But her step-by-step process changed that within a month. I had to un-learn dating habits and learn new skills I never would have dreamed of. As a result, I’m living with the man of my dreams and am a proud Mom to our 6-month-old girl.

~C.G.A.

This program cleared the clutter out of my head and heart so I could get down to what I really wanted and how to go about it. That was four years ago. I’ve been happily married for three years. I highly recommend this work.

~Nina M.

I don’t like dating. Val’s system taught me how to notice and connect with kindred spirits instead of “date.” It is so genuine! I’m finally having a fun time going out.

~Arlene

I am so grateful to Valerie for all of the help that she provided in couples therapy and also individually. She has this amazing ability to have empathy for what you’re going through, while also coaching you, making sure to keep you on track and give you the tools to work through challenges. She comes to meetings prepared, having thought through what needs to be addressed in order to help you heal. She is quick to see where your communication and relational skills can be improved and models ways to make the changes needed to be in a better place individually and with your partner. It’s a safe place where you can share what you need to without fear of judgement, speak your truth and her ability to let you know you are not alone is healing in itself. Valerie helped to improve my communication skills, my ability to be patient and come from a place of understanding, with others and with myself. I cannot recommend Valerie enough. Hands down the best therapist I have had the experience of working with. She genuinely cares and will do what she can to help you on your journey.

~myCirca

“Thank you for all your work with us. We never would have made it without your guidance and support.”

~RB and SE, 2026

I’m SOOOOgrateful for having my back and believing in me, helping me through trauma. —Thank you SOOO much for everything.

~FS, 2024

I am so grateful to have found Valerie! She is an incredibly knowledgeable, understanding, intuitive, and personable therapist whose many skills, including trauma work, EMDR, and dream interpretation, have greatly helped me in finding deeper ways of connecting with myself and healing. I am always in awe of how accurately Valerie can connect with the essence of my core issues and assist me in understanding what I am feeling. She is truly kind and caring and has shown much empathy towards my health condition, which has been a great source of comfort and healing in itself. I highly recommend Valerie to anyone looking for a highly experienced, capable, and above all, truly genuine therapist!

~ZH, 2025

Valerie is an excellent therapist and soul worker. She has rapidly become my go to therapist to send my patients to. As a medical doctor taking care of patients with chronic illnesses, I believe that it is vital to have the support needed to process the illness itself as well as the medical trauma that can occur along the way. Valerie has been able to help so many people, and they come back to me with deep appreciation her work. It is a pleasure to team up with her.

~Sunjya Schweig